I met a sponsee at a meeting this morning. It is nice to have these connections. It is nice to have a meeting to go to. It was particularly nice that I went and sat in my old seat at the meeting. I always sat in the same seat for many years, about five years ago a man decided he would sit there. So, I sat next to him. Before long, I realized that another woman wanted to sit with him, so I moved. I actually felt uncomfortable sitting there, as if I were intruding on their assigned seating. Five years later, those two seldom attend that meeting, but still no one will sit in those seats. That whole corner of the room remains empty, as if a silent shrine to their absence. So, I walked over this morning and sat in "his" seat. A moment later another of my friends moved from where he had been sitting and came and sat in "her" seat.
It reminds me of the story about how Dr. Bob had a seat at the meeting at Kings School in Akron. After his death, it sat empty, an eerie reminder of his passing. Eventually, a new guy came and sat in his chair, and everyone was relieved. No one said a word to the new fellow, it was natural that Dr. Bob's place would eventually be filled. They say nature abhors a vacuum.
We do just fill up those spaces. Thank God I get to be in one of them today. But I must remember that in Alcoholics Anonymous, none of us are that important individually, it is the whole that is important. The whole, that fills up spaces and doesn't allow voids.
It is good.
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I really enjoyed reading about the seat in your meeting. Nature abhors a void. I will ponder that one. Thanks.
It is GOOD. Great post, thank you!
:) Great story about the seat filled. Nature does abhor a vacuum
I am glad that you sat there.
I wrote about how When Ed died, we didn't want anyone sitting in his seat. The first week. Now, people sit there. It's right. And Ed wouldn't want his seat empty like some haunted chair. He'd want it to welcome another drunk.
We shouldn't elevate the individual, and for the most part we don't. The society is bigger. The unity.
It's an interesting study in human nature to watch us in the rooms.
you're well connected from what I can tell... between the bridge, the mountains, the sponsee, the meetings and the memory of Dr Bob, you're well connected.
I hope you had a great Thanksgiving!
I hadn't heard that story about Dr. Bob's seat... thanks for that.
You're being unusually quiet. I hope everything is okay.
Hope that all is well with you.
I don't like people sitting in the same seats at meeting...or anywhere for that matter.
Got to keep trying new things even if it is 'just' a different view of the room
Thanks for sharing this. It's nice to read about your reflections on the whole being more important than the individual. So true.
I'm sure the run helped to bring that out. Nothing quite like a mountain run.
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