Sunday, November 08, 2009

Sunday Morning at Home

I am so grateful that I get to stay home today. I had plans to meet an old friend for breakfast this morning but she had to cancel. I was elated. Isn't that awful? I just am so happy to not have to do anything today.

I am really kind of afraid I am getting sick. I ran 5 miles yesterday and afterwards I was in so much pain I just thought I had perhaps chosen a route with too many hills. Today I am in so much pain I really wonder if I am getting sick. I am sitting on my sofa, wrapped in blankets, freezing, and it is not cold in here. Then I reflect on how bent I got about a couple of things last week and it kind of makes sense if I was slightly sick.

Last night my daughter and I went to one of my sponsee's house for an AA function. It was really wonderful. I got to sit in a room with a bunch of people who were talking about spiritual experiences. You know, talking about these things outside of "the rooms" is very different from listening to what gets shared at meetings. Not that there is anything wrong with how or what people share in meetings, but having interactive discussions with people just adds so much understanding of them and what they are actually saying.

Later we got to just be so silly, and laugh so much. What a joy it is to watch my daughter fit right into this group. Actually, age-wise, sobriety and natal, she fits in better than I do. What an awesome thing to see.

I am grateful to have a group that has some structure for getting together outside of the regular meeting. Granted, it is only one evening a month, and some special occasions, but it is still powerful. It is a great way to get to know people. We do also have breakfast at least once a week (which I don't always get to).

When I was new in AA, I was really encouraged to get to the "meeting after the meeting" and I am glad I was. I think if you only show up for the meeting, you will really not get a good feel for what we are about. And that holds true for people with years and decades of sobriety too.

Oh, and if no one has ever asked you out for coffee or breakfast or dinner or lunch or whatever, ask them. Sometimes, even though it would be very nice if someone would reach out to us, we have to be the ones to stick our hands out. Yes, even if we are the new ones.

And I just have to say that I am so glad that Pammie is back. Much Love to you my friend.

"Still you may say: 'But I will not have the benefit of contact with you who write this book.' We cannot be sure. God will determine that, so you must remember that your real reliance is always upon Him. He will show you how to create the fellowship you crave." -- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 164.


Scott W said...

This morning's topic was the We of the program. Can't talk enough about what it means to me.

dAAve said...

Take care not to get sicker. Remeber, I'm the sick one around here.

I have to have that fellowship, in and out of the rooms. Without it, I'll be back to the fellowship in bars.

Lou said...

Great post. I like the idea of doing "normal" things like breakfast, dinner, having regular conversations.
I've made some nice friendships in AlAnon.

PS Good to know about your daughter. She is another one that is on my mind.

Ed G. said...

I sometimes wish the "fellowship I crave" would be presented to me on a silver platter. With ice cream. And whip cream. And syrup. And steak sauce. And hollandaise.

OK, now I'm sick.

Anyway, I'm glad you've created a fellowship that works for you and embraces those you love.

Blessings and aloha...

Anonymous said...

I hope you are not sick. Thanks for that last paragraph. I also hope Denver kicks Pittsburg's butt tonight!

Scott said...

I really got sober, learned how to live sober during the meetings after the meetings... so important that newcomers see and experience AA folks outside the rooms

Anonymous said...

lovin' my mary.

Syd said...

I really like the "meeting after the meeting". We Al-Anons tend to be so serious but I see more and more that people open up and look forward to talking after the meeting.

Gledwood said...

I hate you so much for being elated over cancelling an appointment with someone I don't know either. Murderous rage froths up inside me, hahar! I like those trees by the way, they're cool.

Mary Christine said...

I didn't cancel the appointment. She did.