Yesterday while shopping at Macy's for my son's birthday present, I got a call from my daughter's boyfriend. I knew it couldn't be good news, and indeed it wasn't. I don't know if I have shared here that my daughter is drinking again. She managed to stay clean something like 80 days, and then decided to drink. It amazes me when people say "well, at least she isn't using meth." Anyone who says that has never seen my daughter drink. Her boyfriend was a cop for 10 years and told me yesterday that he never in all that time saw a drunk as bad as my daughter. The night before she had called at 1:00 a.m. (he had the phone turned off) and screamed into the phone that she had wrecked his truck and had left it on **** Blvd. in Denver. She didn't bother to call and follow up with any further information.... like was she hurt, did she hurt anyone else, where she was going, where the truck was, etc.
He asked me what he should do. I told him that it would sound strange to him, but I thought the most important thing for him to do is call Alanon. I told him that he could not continue to ruin his life chasing after my daughter. That he needed to take care of himself. That this crap was going to kill him. (Later I realized that telling him was pretty selfless - my purposes would better be served by him continuing to take care of her, but I digress....)
He later called to tell me that she had called him, had shown up for work and was OK. That his truck had a scrape on the bumper, and it was no big deal. And that she wanted to start taking antabuse.
I have been praying. Praying, Praying, Praying.
I spoke with my sponsor yesterday. Her daughter is serving a life sentence for murdering her boyfriend in a drunken rage. My sponsor doesn't tip-toe around this stuff. She lives every single day with the fallout from this horrible disease.
So I will now go out and run 3 miles. I will come home and prepare a lovely birthday dinner for my son. We will have a lovely afternoon. I have been doing this for too long to let it destroy my life. I just won't do it.
Have a sober day everyone, OK?