The logical conclusion to this type of thinking is to pour a drink if you are not spiritually fit 100% of the time. Really. Why not, if you are not "sober," only "dry?"
Do I need to be living on a spiritual basis? yes. Do I need to be constantly trying to improve my spiritual life? yes. Do I need to live by the twelve steps and twelve traditions? yes. Do I always do this without fail? No. No. No. I just don't. But that doesn't mean I am not sober. It means that I get another chance tomorrow to do things right. Which is a chance I would not get if I took alcohol into this body in any way, shape, or form.
We do not always like the behavior of others. Particularly when they hurt us. There is very strong temptation to "constructively" criticize them and talk about the failings in their "programs." But I like to think that God above knows what is going on, and I really don't. I just see my side of the story.
So, having said all of that, I could tell you what "these people" are doing. What it is that is disgusting to me. How it has hurt me. How I need to find a new home group because of it. You would chime in. Wow. You call that recovery? How can those people call themselves sober? Well, they do and they can. Is that what I want, hell no.
And I have to say that yesterday I got a little bit annoyed by the comment of another. Instead of letting it slide, I posted about it. He was hurt by the comments that others made. I apologized to him. I can't really make amends - I can't make it right. I can't undo what I did. But I can admit that I was wrong and try to make it right. I was wrong and I am sorry.
We are all just drunks trying to get and stay sober, one day at a time, with the help of God and each other. Let's cut each other a little bit of slack, OK?