Tuesday, September 29, 2009

NO ONE HAS PERMISSION TO POST MY BLOG

Sorry to resort to that, but it is still posted there. I called again today and was told that they would remove it, but it is still there.

Then I read some of the poorly written stuff on the website about why you need to check into a year or two of supervised living in a house with others - here is a quote:

when an addict or alcoholic immediately returns to common people, places and things that they are used to - relapse becomes inevitable in most cases.

Really? When I was newly sober I was taught that I needed to go back to my family and face up to my responsibilities. That although I may not have been "on" my 9th step yet, I could begin my "living" amends by acting like a decent wife and mother. A decent neighbor and friend. I could go out and get a job. I could do the dishes for crying out loud!

That God had either removed the obsession to drink or he hadn't. If the obsession was lifted, I would be able to face things without fear. For me, I would be able to live in a home with an active alcoholic. I was able to go out and purchase him beer and bring it home for him. Now, let me be quick to tell you that if I had a sponsee acting the fool like this, I would be telling her to knock it off - but I knew that I was set free from the prison of alcoholism. I knew that I was free. I did not have to go live with jailers to supervise my every move. I was released from the hell of active alcoholism by the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous which led me to a spiritual experience. I have not had to have a drink at all since then (1984) nor have I ever had a serious desire for one. I have had a few fleeting moments when I thought a drink would be a good idea, but they always passed quickly.

Maybe some people do need to be supervised 24/7. I really do not understand. That is not my story.

I would not belabor the point if my blog wasn't being published in its entirety on a website proclaiming that you cannot possibly stay sober without specific (expensive) treatment and then a long term stay in a "sober living" house.

Let me just throw out another cautionary tale to bloggers: I get at least one e-mail a week telling me about some great website or another and how they would love to link to my blog! I ignore these because I don't care who LINKS to my blog. They usually want me to link to theirs, and I am not interested in doing that. I won't even link to blogs with ads on them. I had no idea that someone could just take your whole blog and put it on their site. I will no longer ignore those e-mails. I will respond immediately and tell them that NO ONE HAS PERMISSION TO PUBLISH MY BLOG ANYWHERE OTHER THAN ON MY BLOG. I may have to get a lawyer to get this resolved. Just what I need....

7 comments:

ChrisR said...

Mary -- you're currently publishing/syndicating your blog using RSS. By doing so, you're giving implicit permission to others to use that feed on their site, the same as when AP syndicates news feeds for newspapers to use. I don't use Blogger to publish, but I would think you could easily turn RSS off as a setting for your blog, which would immeadiately remove the material from their site (unless they're using a different method, which I doubt.)

Hope that helps,
Chris

Mary Christine said...

Thank you very much Chris R. Problem is now solved. Awesome. I will write something decent in the morning.

Pam said...

I checked the minute I got up, and yes it is gone. whew.
PS: What a nice guy Chris.

dAAve said...

There is (always) a solution.

Scott said...

excellent, let there be peace :-)

Ed G. said...

Glad you were able to work this out (w/out lawyers).

Made me check my other blogs about the RSS feed - a vulnerability that I'd not thought through...

Blessings and aloha...

Syd said...

I'm glad that a solution without attorneys could be found.