Last night my sprinkler guy came over. He is a fellow AA member, has been sober 21 years, so we have lots to talk about. After we got the sprinkler system up and running, we stood outside and talked for about an hour. It was wonderful! We talked about how much AA has changed in our tenures. How much we miss the good old days when people did not tolerate so much. When someone would be happy to tell you when you were full of shit.
Now we like to be sweet to everyone. No one seems to care that we may be killing them with kindness. And in my opinion, being "kind" to newcomers is more about me looking good and being likable than it is about helping another suffering alcoholic. Some of the kindest things that have been said or done to me have seemed cruel at the time.
Got to get to work. Have a sweet day everyone.