Now for a serious note:
I am writing this past my bedtime. My judgment is probably not the best. I could pay dearly for asking this question, but I am going to do it anyway.
In the past week, I have learned of two AA members who have engaged in some seriously anti-social behavior and are talking about it. Sober members of Alcoholics Anonymous. One of them is sober only a couple of years, the other, over 2 decades.
So what do we do? When a young, strong, 200+ lb. man is pushing around (literally) an over 70 year old man who weighs 130 lbs. tops, and has just had surgery... do we just turn the other way and "live and let live"--- I don't think we should.
Back in the day (I bet you get sick of hearing this from me) there was a core group of people who pretty much confronted people when their behavior was out of line. They let them know about it. In the past, I have confronted people talking about what I consider child abuse in AA meetings. I don't think we condone illegal behavior in AA. I don't think we should. I think it makes us complicit in the behavior.
Do we tolerate bullies because we are afraid of them? Do we tolerate any kind of unacceptable behavior from a person who is sober so long that they have intimidated the rest?
Is an AA club a place where an old man having a cup of coffee in the morning should be afraid for his life? Where are the people who should have defended him? Why didn't anyone call "911"? And who can sit and listen to Mr. Sober spout his spirituality at the next meeting? Not me.
I really try not to judge people in AA - we are all people who have some serious flaws - and we are in various stages of recovery from them. But there is some behavior so egregious that I think it can't just be overlooked. We are supposed to be learning to be responsible people.
OK. I am going to bed. And tomorrow the world will look like a rosy place. My sponsor will be on her way to visit me, and my mouth will be all better!