You know, we as human beings are ever changing. Yesterday I wrote of a sponsee in a sort of negative light. She is a beautiful human being, she has been sober for 15 years, she has "worked" her ass off in this program. Reading what you read yesterday, you may have gathered that she is just a pain in the ass. Not so, dear reader, not so. She is someone as important to me as someone in my family. She has hit a very difficult bump in the road and is not reacting well - at all. But sometimes we do that. I would be a poor sponsor indeed if I decided that she didn't meet my "criteria" at this time and dumped her. I pray to God she will get over this obstacle in her path, and I will be here for her as she tries.
I remember my father telling me that life changes a great deal as we go from year to year. I didn't believe him. I was having great difficulty with one of my brothers. He had set about to make a fortune in his early adulthood, and he did that. It seemed that he would always be on top of the world. My father told me that fortunes change. And they did. Dramatically.
Last night as I was waiting for my date to arrive, I was perusing facebook (seriously? blogger never heard of fb and thinks it is a misspelled word?) - I saw a comment on a friend's page and couldn't believe it! It was a woman I sponsored 20 or more years ago. I immediately sent her a friend request, and she immediately accepted it. I looked at her photos, and unfortunately, it looks like she returned to drinking. When that happens, I always hope that somehow the person was not an alcoholic after all, and they are perfectly happy drinking. I hope that is the case. Or even better, I hope she is not drinking and that the photos are just misleading. But I got to see photos of her grandkids who look about the same age as her kids were when we were hanging out. I got to see her youngest kid, who was the most gorgeous little baby, who is now in the Marines.
Life really is short, isn't it? Just long enough to decide to love - or not, to make a positive impact in others' lives - or not. To strive to do God's will every day - or not. To stay sober - or not.
I think I shall endeavor to stay sober today, and I hope you all do too.