Saturday, December 05, 2009

Cussin' Ron

Passed away on December 2. He was sober for 36 years.

I wish I knew more about him. Like I don't know how old he was, but I suspect he was in his early 70s. I have even forgotten the land of his birth, but it was eastern European.

I just know him from sitting in meetings, at coffee, at potlucks, in restaurants, etc. over the years. He lived on the north side of town and I knew him from my old home group. Imagine my surprise when I had moved to the south side of town about 15 years ago and had gotten a new sponsor and was attending a party at her house and saw Ron walk in! They had sobered up together, she, her husband, and Ron, back in California.

He was "something else." He was not everyone's cup of tea. But he was my cup of tea - exactly.

I don't know if he ever composed a sentence without the word "fock" in it. He also used plenty of the kinds of profanities I refuse to use - sprinkled in with the "focks" were the g**damns (I just refuse to say that, sorry). But he was always so grateful to be sober, and that never changed. After his daughter killed herself in his house with his gun, that never changed. After his many divorces, that never changed. After his colossal business failures, that never changed. After his myriad health problems, that never changed. So, if you saw Ron, you knew he would say "I am just so focking grrrrateful to be sober! I luff this g**damn prrrogram!" I wish you could hear his growly voice and hear that thick accent. Oh, it was something to behold.

When I called my sponsor to tell her that he had passed, she cried like a baby. Then she told me to hold my relationships dear. Keep those people I sobered up with close. Those relationships mean more than words could ever express. And I am passing those words on to you.

Lots of Love to you this Saturday morning....

7 comments:

Scott W said...

Seems those close relationships are the place where God gets really, really close to us.

Ed G. said...

Good suggestions from your sponsor for this life.

Blessings and aloha...

dAAve said...

I read this with a tear in one eye and a smile in the other.

Lou said...

I have a friend I ran with for 10 years. She doesn't run anymore, but for all those years we went running together 5 or 6 times a week for an hour or longer. All those hours for all those 10 years I would talk about Andrew's Addiction..nonstop. And she listened. I look back, and wonder how she put up with it. She still listens if I need her. I hold that relationship very dear.

Pam said...

I want to call people and touch base or something. So many people in this program have crossed my path...I GOTTA KEEP UP WITH PEOPLE BETTER!

Scott said...

Lots of love to you too MC, lots.. and thank you for your concern, it means alot that you care :-) and ya, it seems a might impossible at times ;-)

Syd said...

He seems like quite a character. I think that there will be more who are dear that will pass on as the years progress. I'm glad that you had Ron and treasured your time with him.