Some of my most meaningful amends have been the ones I couldn't make for whatever reason... the person was dead, or they wouldn't accept my amends, or I couldn't tell them what I did because they didn't know and I would hurt them by unloading my conscience on them. Etc. (Not because the amend might hurt me and therefore I opted not to make it.)
My ex-husband's current (for the last 20 years) wife is among the people I couldn't ever "win over" with any kind of "work". She just doesn't like me. She doesn't have to like me.
I went to my daughter's graduation today and walked into a huge arena - what are the odds that I would just happen to sit just behind this woman and my grandchildren? Well, I did. And when I realized it, my first thought was to quietly slip away. But instead, I tapped my oldest granddaughter on her shoulder and said "hi." The girls were delighted and squealed "NANA!" And she turned around and said "hi mary." I was able to smile as nice as I possibly can and said hi back. I took one of the kids, she kept the other. We watched the graduation together.
When it was all over, my daughter was shocked to see us sitting together. I told her to join my daughter and I would take a picture of them together. Then she took a picture of my daughter and I. Then some generous stranger told us to all stand together and he would be happy to take a picture of us all! The adults all looked like maybe we would get sick, but we did it anyway. I want a copy of that picture!
Oh, I am sure she still doesn't like me. But at least we spoke to each other. She has been unwilling to speak to me since I think 1997. It made my daughter happy.
These things really never end. Amends great and small. I thank God for the opportunities he places in my path. I cannot create them. I cannot make them happen. I have tried and have made huge fiascos.
But when I am open to God's will for me, oh, the wonderful things that happen! It is absolutely astounding!
Oh, and my daughter is pretty amazing too! I am so proud of her!