Thursday, January 15, 2009

Happy Birthday to my ex-husband

He got sober on January 15, 1981.  That makes him 28 years sober?  That means I met him 20 years ago?  oh my.  Time does have a way of flying, doesn't it?

20 years ago.... I was 4 and a half years sober.  I was in the locked ward of a local hospital.  I had never been locked up in any way before.  I had never even visited a psychiatric hospital.  And yet, there I was.  An attractive young woman, a fellow patient, asked me if I wanted to pray with her and I eagerly said "yes."  But as she started praying, I quickly saw the delusional, hyper-religiousness of her prayer.  It was so scary.  I had to ask staff to help me to get her away from me.  

When I got out of the hospital - nearly 2 weeks later - I had lots of time on my hands to go to meetings since I no longer had a job.  And I met a handsome, charming, intelligent, sober man.  He was visiting from Australia.   He had everything I ever wanted in a man - and I do mean everything.  

20 years later, I am a single woman.  I am grateful to have lived through the experience.  I am also grateful to be single. I am grateful to be able to walk into a grocery store and know that when I walk out I won't be told not to come back again.  I am grateful to pretty much know what my life is likely to be like today and tomorrow.  I am grateful that there are tulips in the ground that I have planted over the years and I will likely get to see them come up again in a few months.... right where I planted them.  


9 comments:

J-Online said...

Look how far you've come! You have a lot to be proud of. And Happy Birthday to your Ex. Are you still in contact?

Mary Christine said...

Yes, we stay in touch. He lives in Thailand now.

Pam said...

I wish my ex husband lived in Thailand.
I'm so glad that you have stayed right where you were planted little tulip bulb.

Syd said...

I wonder what happened to the Australian man. It sounds like a love story.

Tulips are my favorites but alas, they don't do well in SC.

dAAve said...

You sound much better today. Maybe it is a sign of the near-term future times.

Lou said...

I wonder if there is AA in Thailand. Probably.

steveroni said...

I know some girls who would happily give their PRESENT husband a ome-way ticket to Thailand for his birthday.

Mary Christine said...

Yes, there is AA in Thailand.

No, I do not feel better. I am just sick of complaining about it. And you all must be sick of hearing it.

Patty said...

Thanks for the tulip reminder on this cold, cold day. It won't be long!