I was going to write a post about pointers on how to be a sponsee, but I have gotten side-tracked by watching my favorite Sunday morning news show. So, here is a pointer for the news media: If you spend several years setting someone up to get elected and then they do, could you please continue to be nice to him? He is going to be the President of the United States, let's cut him some slack, OK? He has arguably one of the worst situations to come into, let's all get on board - especially those of you who wouldn't say anything negative about him a few short months ago. OK?
Okay, now on to being a sponsee:
- Your sponsor is a human being. She sleeps, eats, breathes, and just wants to stay sober, just like you.
- She is not paid, and does not receive any remuneration for the time and effort she spends on you. She just works with others because it is part of the deal (and usually a joy).
- If your sponsor tells you she goes to bed at 8:30 p.m., don't call every night at about 9:30 p.m., especially after you have been told this is not OK.
- When you call, it is common courtesy to ask "how are you?" or "do you have a second to talk?" or somehow inquire as to the sponsor's condition before you launch into your problems/complaints.
- If your sponsor suggests that you do something that is not immoral or illegal, don't shop around for differing opinions and then come back to your sponsor and tell her why you shouldn't do it... that, in my book, is the end of the sponsorship relationship.
- Sponsorship is a principle, not a personality. If you trust God, you trust God to put the right sponsor into your life... then you stop running the show and learn how to ask for and receive help.
Can anyone increase the list?