You know, we in AA talk about sharing our own experience, strength, and hope with each other that we may solve our common problem and help others to recover from alcoholism. I think we stress that so much so that there isn't much to argue about when someone shares their very own experience, strength, and hope. When someone veers into sharing their opinions or their ideas about what YOU should do, it tends to raise the hackles of alcoholics and the argument ensues. I do, however, get kind of surprised when there is argument about my experience. That just is weird to me.
On a "social networking" site, my niece wrote that she was scanning REALLY OLD photos. When I saw that, I thought "Oh, no." And sure enough, a few minutes later, I was tagged in a photo of a very drunk me, 29 years ago, sitting with my year old twins on my lap, a bloody mary in front of me, it is broad daylight outside, and my brother is sitting behind me, lighting a cigarette. When you stay sober for a couple of decades, the tangible evidence of your drunkenness doesn't often raise its ugly head. That photo was like a very cold glass of water in the face. Very sobering to see this drunken crazy woman, and the two little unhappy babies sitting on my lap, and the booze all around me. (I did have cute Farrah Fawcett hair though.) I wrote something to my niece, and she responded that she thought I might hate that photo, but she has kept it for all these years because it is SO what those years were like. Yes, it is. (shudder)
Grateful that I am a sober woman today. Thank You God!