Is that your group's primary purpose?
Do you understand what this means?
Our primary purpose is not to:
- be nice to people when they are drunk
- be nice to people when they "keep coming back!"
- be nice to people who have no desire to stop drinking
- be nice at all.
There are missions and shelters and other community services to "be nice" to people.
AA is here to help people get sober. Sometimes the things that people need to hear are not soft on the ears. Sometimes it hurts like hell to stop the habits we acquired when we were living our own way - and therefore drunk. But we have to or we will not recover.
How nice is it to let someone sit in an AA meeting and not share our message with them? Do we have a message? I think that to be "kind" to someone who has no desire to get sober and welcome them with open arms and water down our message for them, is really cruel. I think that to be "kind" to someone and fail to share with them that they need to do more than just attend meetings is cruel.
If you want to quit drinking - AA is the place for you.
If you want to quit drinking - you not only need to go to meetings, but you need to get a sponsor and get to work.
That's what I have to say today.