This morning I got to watch my daughters leave together on a trip to a mountain resort. Today is their 30th birthday. They are twins.
One is an alcoholic and addict. The other one is the one who has always done everything right. The "right" daughter has had her fill of the "wrong" daughter in the last few years. Actually her disgust finally came to the surface on this date 3 years ago, and had never waivered since then. She decided she was going to go away by herself this year so that her sister had no ability to ruin her birthday. All week long, I was asking her what she wanted for her birthday and she wouldn't even answer me. She just wanted to ignore it.
I was going to make a birthday celebration for my "trouble" daughter and leave the other one alone to figure out what she wanted to to. But yesterday morning, Ms. Right called Ms. Wrong and invited her to get away to this resort where they spent so much of their young life. They are going swimming in the hot springs pool, getting massages this afternoon, and pedicures tomorrow. I gave them both little envelopes with money in them to help defray some of the expense. What happiness is brought about by one person making the attempt to "get over it."
I made them breakfast this morning and then they were on their way. And of course, I made cupcakes last night so they would have their very own little portable birthday cakes to take with them (carrot cake with cream cheese frosting).
When I think about how much I love my daughters, and son, I marvel at the fact that God loves me even more than that - because he is so much more capable. I think about how much it hurts me when all of my children aren't loving each other and try to apply that principle to the way I treat others, knowing that my heavenly father is even more hurt by our lack of love for one another than a mother could ever be. It isn't easy to love the unlovable, but I believe that is what we are called to do.
What better place to do that than in Alcoholics Anonymous!