Monday, February 13, 2006

Monday Morning

On this Monday morning, I am glad to be getting back to work. I had a nice weekend and I am looking forward to a nice week. My son and daughter came over yesterday and we had a nice spagetti dinner and sat and watched "Mythbusters" all afternoon. It was great fun. Here's a picture of the clogs - as promised to Aawoken. I wish I could wear those shoes every day, they are so comfortable.

Here's a non-sequiter: I spoke with my ex-husband (on the phone) on Friday night. He is in Los Angeles for 6 months - he normally lives somewhere in Asia. I was happy to get a call from him. But almost immediately, he threw one of his zingers at me. Right after "hi, how are you, what are you doing, etc." he asked "so, how long's it been now since you have been back on the piss?" I asked WHAT? because, for one thing, I have forgotten his Australian lingo. The other reason I was incredulous was that in AA we NEVER joke about drinking. We laugh about everything, but never do we joke that we are drinking, that we might drink, that we did drink - these are not jokes. So, my ex said that he was joking. I told him immediately that it was not funny. We went on to have a conversation for over an hour. We even talked about meeting somewhere to have lunch.

But on Saturday morning, all I could think of was that ridiculous question he asked me. And I don't want to see him and I haven't returned his calls. He was abusive when we were married and he is still the same person. I do not want to see him. I will have to call him to tell him to stop calling me. I don't even want to talk to him.

I still don't know how I ever left him... with nothing but a backpack. But I thank God every day that I did. I always have the hope that I can remain friends or at least on amiable terms with all the people who have been in my life. But I think after all these years, I can just say that this one will not work out in any way, shape, or form.

9 comments:

AAwoken said...

I think you are doing the right thing with the ex.

I'm posting my clogs.

AAwoken said...

posted

NMAMFQLMSH said...

Believe it or not my ex and I have a better relationship now than when we were married. I guess what it all boils down to is he is not in my life to tell me what to do, when to do it, and who to do it with. LOL. I'm my own person now.
I see you and your clogs too,
JJ
PS: I think I have the same clogs.

Tab said...

Sometimes we encounter that kind of negative interference on our journey in life but its good because it can keep you feeling even more confident you are on the right track and can let people like that go once and for all!!!
Thanks for sharing
Tab

dAAve said...

I'll stay out of the whole EX situation.

You and aawoken have the same feet. I mean clogs.

Alexis said...

awesome vision on the ex and what you really want. more is always revealed.

Shannon said...

well I am glad to read you trusting your gut (again) :) hang in ther and be direct like you said...

I try too to have a peaceful relationship with my ex- sometimes yes, sometimes no.. acceptance of him, and me makeing my boundries clear help... Oh and this working this program.. LOL because I still have to deal with him on a weekly basis... LOL

Santa said...

After all these years I pray that our relationship has been at least amiable. You are too cool.

Mary Christine said...

Santa! Of course our relationship is amiable! Forever And Ever Amen.