Monday, February 06, 2006

Unique and Priceless

"For, to these people, I am truly related. First, through mutual pain and despair, and later through mutual objectives and new-found faith and hope. And, as the years go by, working together, sharing our experiences with one another, and also sharing a mutual trust, understanding and love-without strings, without obligation-we acquire relationships that are unique and priceless."
Alcoholics Anonymous, 3rd edition, p. 312
Just like an alcoholic to feel BETTER after a funeral, huh? I went to Eddie's funeral this morning. It was terribly sad, but incredibly wonderful too. There were so many people there. Even the priest made a comment about the fellowship of AA and how many people were there. They also let us say the Lord's Prayer as a closing instead of the way it usually is. We all held hands and said "keep coming back" and then we all laughed - because it was so crazy to say that at a funeral.

There were so many people I hadn't seen in so long. Former lovers, many friends I had lost touch with, a couple of old sponsors, even my drunken former boyfriend you have all heard me talk so much about. We were all kids together. We were kids when we were already supposed to be grown ups, but we grew up together because we got sober together. Most of us there were around 20 to 25 years sober. Some older, some newer, some not even sober (like my former boyfriend).

Eddie touched a lot of lives. He never gave up on people. He never gave up on my former boyfriend - even though every one else has. There was another guy I sat with at lunch, he is from my new home group and he didn't know anyone else there. I asked him how he knew Eddie, and he told me that Eddie saved his life in the last year as he has been going through a divorce. Eddie was relentless. And he helped a lot of people. I am honored to have known and loved him.

If you are new to AA, please keep coming. The relationships you make in AA are unlike any others you have ever had. I kept thinking about the big book quote I put on here. "For to these people, I am TRULY related." I would have never chosen these people to be in my life, but God chose them for me, and they are infinitely better than anything I might have dreamed up for myself. Thank God for the fellowship of Alcoholics Anonymous.

7 comments:

dAAve said...

This, in itself, is a wonderful reminder for Eddie to take with him.

Trudging said...

I felt much better when I went to Ted's wake last fall. It was sad that he never really got sober but, we still celebrated his life.

Santa said...

Nothing could say it better we do have relationships that are unique and priceless. Far better than any Mastercard commercial

Alexis said...

you post today was so moving. I had chills. Isn't it awe inspiring to see how many lives one recovering drunk can touch? I'm glad you feel better and felt the love, even if it all stemmed from a funeral

Sam said...

You really touched me with this...


Interesting that you used "priceless" today. I did, too, (in a different context) on my rAAnch entry today.

Take care.

Shannon said...

I am glad we are related... otherwise we would be doomed,

lash505 said...

Eddie sounds like a dedicated servant of the program. Hopefully he had the balance in life as well.