Thursday, July 07, 2011


My daughter called me yesterday to tell me that she had gotten her apartment. This is unbelievably wonderful news. The girl has no visible means of support. She cannot get a job to save her life. When filling out applications for an apartment, she had to detail the foreclosure, evictions, horrible job record, etc. The wreckage.

And even though she has found a program that will pay her rent, she was still being denied. I guess I can't blame people. Her new apartment is within walking distance to three "AA Palaces" - that's what she calls them. One of those palaces is where I attend most of my meetings. I shan't worry, there is little danger of running into her at 6:30 a.m.

She wanted to get away from the AA groups she has been attending in her first 2.5 years of sobriety. Some people claim that is bad (like her old b.f.), but I think it is a great idea. I have had to do that myself.

This old b.f. of hers, the man who treated her worse than anyone ever did when she was a homeless meth addict, had the nerve to call me the other morning. With his phony "concerned" voice, he left me a message about how worried he is about my daughter. That she is heading down the "wrong road." Yeah, going to a battered women's shelter to get away from you probably doesn't seem like a "right road!" So he was calling me to get advice on how to "help" her. Thank God for restraint of tongue and pen - I did not call him back. But I would have loved to have called him and told him that she is doing just fine. Better than ever.

Doing the right thing and moving forward in your life doesn't always "look" really great. Sometimes you have to take four steps backward to make one leap forward. She had to do that when she left that guy to go to a battered women's shelter. That doesn't sound like progress in life, but believe me, it was.

My daughter is going to school full time. She has a 4.0 GPA. And that is for more than a couple of classes now. She will now have her first "living alone" apartment. She has been sober for two and a half years. It is all beyond anything I could have imagined a few short years ago.

It is beautiful what God can do if we will just give him a chance.


Syd said...

I am glad for her. Having a 4.0 is a big deal. Good for her.

Lou said...

The thought of someone hurting our daughters makes me physically ill. You showed great restraint in not calling; although such men think they have done nothing wrong.

Living alone..a big step. It's an idea that is just now coming to our addict. We all know it is time.

dAAve said...

Thanks for the update. I bet it will all work out.

susanm said...

I am so happy for your daughter's recovery. Thanks for your blog. You and I have about the same amount of time --- my sobriety date is 3/9/87. I enjoy reading your posts and your gratitude helps me with my gratitude. Thanks again, and have a great day!xoxxosusanm

Steve E said...

"...Give God a chance." Yup! All He wants is a little cooperation.
Those "AA Palaces" help me, too!

Anonymous said...

What a great update! You did show so much restraint by not calling him back. It's so hard when people hurt the ones we love. I am so glad she is in her own place and feeling strong. I just moved to and it is very emotional. I haven't lived alone sober, but I have to trust my HP!