Thursday, December 11, 2008

Happy Girl :-)

I went to my new gym this morning and ran 3 miles on the treadmill.  Running on the treadmill is an entirely different thing than running outside on concrete and pavement... a lot harder in ways, but a lot easier in others.  I am very excited to have this gym to go to.  It is 7 minutes from my house.  And then there is a bigger one with all the fancy schmancy stuff close to my office.  I am looking forward to all that I can do with this gym membership.  

The bad thing about being at the gym at 6:00 a.m. on December 11?  There are not many people there, but they are all die-hards.  No chubby old ladies - well, at least not until I got there!   In January, I will be high on the fitness curve at the gym, but not in mid-december.  

This morning I got the report from some fairly expensive people search thing.  I am desperately seeking my first husband so that I can get the marriage annulled in the Catholic Church.  I have been looking for him for years.  And documenting my efforts.  And the Church keeps coming back to me saying I have to find him, so I start over again.  This morning I got a report that I actually trust.  It has only 2 addresses on it.  One from 1992 to 1999, and one from 1999 to 2000.  That's it.  For the first time since I started this, I felt like I could see this man, who I have not seen or talked to since 1974, as an old and probably ruined man.  Maybe he was married from 1992 to 1999 - the house is in a nice suburb, in a nice neighborhood.  Then the next, and last, address is in Chicago.  I think the man is dead because I absolutely cannot find him.  

When I do a simple google search for me, I can find my home address, my phone number, my workplace, the homeowner's association (boo!) that I am on, most of the race results from my various races, a letter to the editor I recently sent, etc.  When I had breakfast with a certain DK in Houston, he told me he was in charge of finding people for a high school reunion and told me he found everyone.  I asked him how he did that, and he told me the exact steps I have taken.  I don't know what else I can do.  I think I have come against a dead end.

OK, I am now doing stream-of-consciousness.... sorry.  I am all jazzed up from my good work out...

I am so grateful to be among the living today.  A person who is easy to find.  A person who is not hiding.  That is a good thing.

12 comments:

Scott W said...

Yea for Don K!

Have you tried www.zabasearch.com?

Mary Christine said...

yep. They had an address that isn't even real. I mailed a letter there and got it back "no such address, no person by that name on this street."

Syd said...

Glad that you like the new gym. What about seeing if there is a death certificate in Chicago? Surely, there must be a way to determine if someone is deceased.

I wish you good luck today and every day.

Cat said...

I can so relate to being a person who is not in hiding!!!

Good for you for the early morning work out It just starts my day off right!

Trailboss said...

Good luck on your search. It took me over 2 years to find Stephanie's real dad and he was in the same town as me.

dAAve said...

Happy Day!!

Lou said...

I got a lot of dead ends looking for my dad. I paid for a search like yours, didn't tell me anything I could not find myself.

I decided he was probably dead. I wrote for a death certificate to the 3 states he would most likely have died in. Bingo! From the death certificate I got his last address. I wrote to that address & promptly got a letter back from his last wife. (she is the one who gave me his 12 X 12)

Pam said...

Yeah, I like thinking of you running in doors MUCH better than worrying about you in the cold.
Maybe if you put the word out on the street that he inherited $1M from somewhere - he would show up.

♥Shann♥ said...

lol what Pam said, good luck finding him
I love those highs from working out

♥Shann♥ said...

ps, just wondering (because it has to be something I said or did.. right?) but have I offended you? If I have, let me know, because it must be some misunderstanding? I wonder this because I dont get comments from you at all...So I have been wondering. I wasnt going to say anything, because I felt dumb,

Mary Christine said...

Shannon,
No, you have not offended me. About 6 months or a year ago I stopped visiting most blogs. I was spending so much time looking at blogs that were posted on irregularly. So, I visit three or four blogs a day - people I know are going to post every day. I come by the other ones occasionally.
MC

Mary LA said...

You know M-C, just reading this makes me feel very sad and angry.

In Africa, as in Latin America, the Catholic Church grants annulments far more more rapidly because the Church knows people out here can't find significant others easily.

There is no objective and international standard. Church rulings are determined by context.

Love and sympathy

Mary