Today is my oldest granddaughter's eighth birthday. Her grandfather (my ex-husband), her aunt (my responsible daughter), and I pitched in and bought her a nice new mountain bike - and it's pink! She called me yesterday to thank me and tell me all about it.
When she was born, my daughter lived with me and I thought that we would be a family.... my daughter, granddaughter, and myself. But soon after the baby was born, my daughter moved back with the father of the child. They had another child a few years later. They were doing very well for a few years, until Mr. Meth reared his ugly head and came back into their family.
And now my daughter, the mother of two beautiful little girls, is not allowed to see her children unsupervised. And with good reason.
Thank God these kids have a large extended family. There are lots of people who love them and are actively caring for them, but that can never make up for your mother being "gone."
I see women every day coming into AA, and I know they can and do get clean and sober.
"The age of miracles is still with us. Our own recovery proves that!" -- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 153