Monday, October 12, 2009

Given enough time...

So many things could happen. But there is only so much time for anything. And we seldom know how much that is.

This year, I made the assumption, based on 57 years of experience, that the leaves would change colors some time in mid October and then fall off the trees. They would blow around a bit, crunch around and smell wonderful until we all got out and raked, mulched, vacuumed, and bagged them up and dragged them to the curb for removal for another year. I had never seen a year where it got so cold in early October. It got cold, it snowed, the snow clung to the leaves and froze them solid. Most of the leaves just fell off the trees like frozen bombs on Friday morning - without ever changing colors. They are now laying in damp heaps on the ground in various shades of dark green, brown, and black. No brilliant yellows and oranges. No fragrance of fallen leaves.

Autumn is my favorite time of the year. To see the color of my bedroom change because of the reflected light of the glowing yellow tree in my front yard is something I just love for the week or so that it lasts. This year I will not get to experience that. In the scheme of things, it is certainly not a big deal. But I think it is worthy of reflection.

This morning I went to a meeting and saw a man celebrate his one year anniversary. I was glad to be there. I wonder if he was glad I was there. He was carrying on about how he wants so much more than "just being sober." And I thought about another man I wrote about here some four years ago. He was sober about 90 days and wanted a lot more than "just not drinking." I haven't checked on his condition since last week, but as of last week, he was in the hospital, at death's door after a long bout of drinking. I wonder how he would feel about "just not drinking" today. Maybe that would be a good start.

We can't get our eyes fixed so far out on the horizon that we can't see the next step in front of us, or we may never get to the horizon.

Or it may be that we are never intended to get to the horizon anyway. Maybe our best shot is to enjoy the wet piles of brown leaves on the ground today because we are never intended to see the golden ones next year.

I think I shall give what's left of today my very best. And I hope you do too.


8 comments:

Pam said...

Mary, that was so insightful that I read it twice. This said a whole lot to me today my sweet friend.

dAAve said...

I saw a lot of colorful leaves. Then I saw them falling to the ground on Friday morning, with you.
That was cool.
I begin every day by "just not drinking." Then I do the other things that continues that concept through the rest of the day.

Syd said...

It's the simple things right before me that I often don't get. Thanks for the reminder today. I'm enjoying all that the day has to offer.

Ed G. said...

Thanx so much for your insight and reflection.

Seems whether I enjoy it or not, today is the day I get. Collected, those will be the days I'm given that will comprise my life. That will be the gift of my creator gives me.

I sometimes offer the people I sponsor the question: "What would you have to give up in order to call this moment perfect?"

I'm sorry you don't get the colors you wanted in your room this year. I hope you will be excited to see if they come back next year...

None of this probably makes any more sense to you than it does me ;-)

Blessings and aloha...

Scott W said...

We have green leaves here, they turn colors in one day, the next day they are on the ground. I miss the maple trees from back home. They would blaze with color.

Robert W. said...

Yes - it's a beautiful gift to just focus on the day and give your all to it. Thanks for the beautiful insight, my wonderful friend!

Madison said...

Very nice. A blog to be framed.

Brian said...

Thank you for writing this blog. I am a newcomer to AA (you and I actually share the same sober birthday, although mine is in 2009.)The "lesson" in this post was something I definately needed to hear today. Please know that your wisdom and inspiration is truly helpfull to people like me. Today "just being sober" will be not only enough, but the making of a fullfilling day.