Yesterday I got to spend the day with my sober daughter. She has changed so much in the last 8.5 months. To watch new sobriety this up-close and personal is a revelation to me. It is so different than "working" with someone. I am "just" her mom, and therefore do not want to know the mechanics of her sobriety. We talk about AA a lot, because it is really the center of both of our lives, but separately. We got to go to an AA event last night and it was really fabulous to watch her whip a meeting directory out of her purse when someone asked where a meeting was. It is also fabulous to watch her start to calm down and start to turn her thoughts to others. She takes time aside each day to make phone calls to other women who are newer than she is ... just to check and see how they are. That is the kind of AA I got sober in. It seems foreign to the kind of AA I am involved in now which makes me profoundly sad.
Courage to change the things I can?
So now I shall plant myself on the sofa, turn on the fireplace, turn on the endless procession of Sunday football games, and will do some work that I committed to do.
Have a wonderful, sober Sunday everyone.