|A photo while stopped at a light on my way home from work yesterday. I love the guy crossing the street looking at the sky.|
But while riding the bus, within the first couple of days, back in January, I saw a man I know. He is the husband of a former neighbor who was also one of my university instructors. She wanted to hire me at one point to be her protege, which would have been an incredible opportunity, but didn't pay well enough for me. Weirdly, when I was looking at this house to buy, I realized she lived across the street. Our relationship was essentially ruined once I moved in. I honestly think she resented having someone she knew professionally in the neighborhood. Well, too bad, I didn't move here because she lived here!
Anyway, after a few years, she met a man on an airplane and a few months later, he moved across country to live with her. They were a couple of party animals. That's OK - it is none of my business.
Until her husband showed up at my AA group. I had "the talk" with him - that I would never share with anyone that I saw him there. We were friendly. He was in trouble with a DUI, etc. After a while, he stopped coming to the meeting. And after while longer, they moved to another and much posher neighborhood.
Another neighbor hangs out with them and is always talking about the great parties and how they share cocktails, etc. So, I have a pretty good idea he is drinking again. Again, none of my business. (and furthermore, a DUI doesn't necessarily make you an alcoholic!)
But he rides the same bus as I do! When I first saw him, I smiled and prepared to say "hello," but he just looked away. He never makes eye contact with me. Now when the bus stops where he gets on, I just concentrate on my knitting or my iPhone. I really have no need to talk to him - it is just stupidly awkward.
I have had people run away from me in the grocery store, etc. I am an AA member and have been in this community for a long time. Many, many people have seen me in AA meetings. And I guess if you have seen me and known me as an AA member, and now you are drinking, you no longer want to make chit chat with me on the bus or at the grocery store. That's OK.
Thank God there is no one in this world I have to avoid today. I can walk out of here with my head held even. Not high, not low, just even. I am just a child of God today. A sober child of God.