Lately it seems we have a higher than normal number of people who just can't seem to get sober. I understand that this happens. However, I am concerned about the message I am hearing in meetings.
- Keep Coming Back
- So Glad You Came Back
- It takes REAL courage to raise your hand and be honest
- You don't really lose your sobriety, you just have a new sobriety date
- You don't have to be afraid to come back, we will love you until you can love yourself.
You know what I say? Bullshit.
They told me:
- Go to meetings and don't drink in between them
- Don't drink even if your ass falls off
- Take the action necessary to stay sober
- Sit down and shut up and listen
- You have two ears and one mouth for a reason
I could go on and on with this. But I am sure you get the idea. I understand that some alcoholics will die alcoholic deaths. I understand that some folks come to AA and don't "get it." But I am concerned that we are watering down our own message to try to make it more comfortable for them.
Screw that! Our message is one of Absolute Abstinence. And a means to achieve that. Wow. Why would you want to water that down?
So, let me tell you what they told me at my first meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous on July 24, 1984: "You never have to drink again if you don't want to." And so far, one day at a time, that has been true.
Thank you God!