I got an e-mail from a woman who was searching for her biological father. He was my first boyfriend in sobriety. I wrote about him here once. I used his full name for some unknown reason. Sadly, she learned that he is dead by reading my post.
He had twin children and he missed them every day of his life. Their mother left him and took the children and he never saw them again. He always hoped he would.
Now his children have "found" him by finding my blog. I sent her an e-mail with my phone number. I hope that she will call me. I can tell her that he indeed was an alcoholic, but he was a wonderful, funny, intelligent, loving, and kind man.
The fact that he could never get sober ruined all of that. It ruins so much more than just our lives. It affects the lives of others so profoundly.
Let's be kind to each other today, OK? Thank you.